The Novel Approach is happy to have Mia Kerick with us today on the Here Without You blog tour.
I asked Mia the question: You’ve probably been asked this question more than once, but I’m going to ask again. Given that a relationship between two people has its own complexities, how difficult do you find writing a ménage relationship? Did you find while writing the books in this series that there were certain things you had to explore more deeply, or things you needed to touch on that don’t exist with a couple? What are some of things you paid particular attention to while writing?
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Mia: Hello, thank you so much for welcoming me at The Novel Approach, and for asking me such a thoughtful question.
I found that writing the story of Casey, Zander, and Nate’s love, came very naturally to me. I realize it might seem as if developing the story of a YA threesome would have been quite complex, and there were indeed complexities, but since the three boys were very young when they met and fell in love, they were all still open to new and different, and even, unconventional, experiences and relationships. When Casey, Zander, and Nate were exposed to each other during the process of completing a group French project in their junior year of high school, they were still in their most formative years, emotionally speaking. And when they started to really see each other—not just as “the burnout loser”, “the preppy jock”, and the “effeminate nerd”—but as the human beings inside those shells, they really couldn’t help but fall in love. The reason for this was that each boy possessed strengths and weaknesses in his personality that allowed them to fit together like puzzle pieces.
There were some areas, however, in which I had to be very careful as I wrote. One of these areas was in what I’ll call “the relationship-balance” of the three boys. I had to be certain that the relationship never seemed to favor the closeness of two of the boys over another one. Now, since I knew the boys better than anybody else, I knew that their love was like an equilateral triangle, with no joining of two sides being stronger or closer, or in any way better, than any other. My challenge was to be sure that the reading audience knew that this was the case. And I will admit that several Us Threereviews suggested that Casey and Nate were the “primary” couple, or that Casey and Zander loved each other more than they loved Nate, but I believe that I have stated in both stories, Us Three and Here Without You, that both Nate and Zander considered Casey to be their “glue”, because he was soft and sweet and open and he easily brought them all together, where they were both more reserved and quiet. But this in no way means that the love was stronger between any pairing within this threesome.
In Here Without You, I paid extremely close attention to the sexually intimate aspects of the three boys’ relationship so it was balanced. Two of the boys were going off to college to be roommates, and one was staying home in New Hampshire alone. Would the two in Boston be intimate when the third wasn’t there? The boys very purposefully set their own rules for how they would handle this, and their openness in this area allowed for even further trust to grow as a result of what you might think wouldcause friction. And when the three made love, I had to be careful that every moment of the intimacy was fully shared by all three, no matter what specific action each boy was engaged in.
Casey calls their unconventional partnership a throuple, which combines the word couple with the word three. I really think of Casey, Zander, and Nate’s relationship as very similar to that of a devoted couple, but there just so happen to be three people involved. The young men realize over the course of Here Without You that without all three members, their relationship cannot exist as a romance.
Blurb – Here Without You: With all of his scratched and dented heart, Nate DeMarco wants to be two places at once, but he’s been forced to make an unbearable choice. Having barely survived high school, Nate and his boyfriends, Casey Minton and Zander Zane, are ready to move forward in life. Casey and Zander have left home to attend Boston City College. Nate remains in New Hampshire to protect his volatile younger sister from their increasingly violent, alcoholic uncle. Nate suffers with anger, resentment, and loneliness as he battles what he wants against what he feels he must do.
Now separated, the young men fight to stay in contact. However, they’re each faced with their own separate issues. Casey must cope with residual fear from having been bullied in high school. Zander obsesses over the establishment of One Voice, the new gay-straight alliance at Boston City College. Nate fights for his sister’s very survival. Meanwhile, the intensity of the boys’ relationship increases, both sexually and emotionally, as happens in long distance relationships.
Nate’s futile effort to live two lives leads to tragedy, which blasts Nate, Casey, and Zander apart. Can the three young men find their way back to a united path before it’s too late?
About the Author: Mia Kerick is the mother of four exceptional children—all named after saints—and five nonpedigreed cats—all named after the next best thing to saints, Boston Red Sox players. Her husband of twenty-two years has been told by many that he has the patience of Job, but don’t ask Mia about that, as it is a sensitive subject.
Mia focuses her stories on the emotional growth of troubled young people and their relationships, and she believes that physical intimacy has a place in a love story, but not until it is firmly established as a love story. As a teen, Mia filled spiral-bound notebooks with romantic tales of tortured heroes (most of whom happened to strongly resemble lead vocalists of 1980s big-hair bands) and stuffed them under her mattress for safekeeping. She is thankful to Dreamspinner Press, Harmony Ink Press, and CreateSpace for providing her with alternate places to stash her stories.
Mia is a social liberal and cheers for each and every victory made in the name of human rights, especially marital equality. Her only major regret: never having taken typing or computer class in school, destining her to a life consumed with two-fingered pecking and constant prayer to the Gods of Technology.