Please join us in welcoming author SJD Peterson today to chat about the C word (condoms) and her new book, Bound. She’s also offering one winner the chance to win an ecopy of the book, so be sure to check out the details.
To Condom or Not to Condom, That Is the Question
Someone reading Bound sent me a message and pointed out that they didn’t understand, first, why an established couple in a monogamous relationship would use condoms? Second, they pointed out that Tek & Jamie sometimes used condoms and other times they didn’t. Well….I’m not sure how to respond other than, it made sense to me at the time and still does. I have been in a monogamous relationship for over two years, I damn sure can’t get pregnant, we are both clean, but as a rule we tend to use condoms—easy clean up. Sometimes, however, during those moments of intense passion, condoms aren’t always high on the priority list. (TMI?)
Anyway, it got me thinking about condom use in fiction. Shouldn’t it mimic real life? The majority of my characters are flawed, sometimes they make stupid choices, but honestly, I don’t think Tek & Jamie are stupid for foregoing a condom once in a while, and I’m not about to judge them for their preference in using them (Pot calling the kettle black).
Here’s the thing, I write romantic erotica, which means I write about sex, a lot of sex. I admit I have a problem writing about condoms in a book during sex scenes. Editors point it out when I don’t use them, some readers get upset with me if I don’t include them, and still other readers get upset when I do use them. It’s really a no win situation. *Sigh*
I wish there was a way in which readers could just add one or take one away based on their preference. However, since no such device exists, I’ll have to continue doing the best I can and write what feels right for the story. Personally, I don’t mind leaving the whole process of rolling on the condom, slicking up, blah blah blah out of a scene, but I know others do and I try to be sensitive to that. What bothers me most is when the condom magically appears out of thin air.
The bottom line is, sometimes I write about guys who use condoms, guys who don’t use them, and sometimes about guys who, once in a while, can’t remember where they put the damn thing. What about you? Do you think condoms are necessary in every sex scene?
The Giveaway: Tell me what you think and I’ll pick one random winner to receive an ebook copy of Bound.
Blurb: Tek Cain & Jamie Ryan work at the Guards of Folsom BDSM club. After two years on the run from their old motorcycle club and the Feds, Tek & Jamie are finally able to relax and enjoy their new life in New York City. But the past won’t stay buried, and when the MC resurfaces, it’s Jamie who pays the price. Tek and the rest of the members at the Guards of Folsom must work together to get back one of their own.
In this, the final installment in the Guards of Folsom series, everyone must come together, bound as one in their quest to find Jamie and bring him home once and for all.
Meet Jo Peterson: SJD Peterson, better known as Jo, hails from Michigan. Not the best place to live for someone who hates the cold and snow. When not reading or writing, Jo can be found close to the heater checking out NHL stats and watching the Red Wings kick a little butt. Can’t cook, misses the clothes hamper nine out of ten tries, but is handy with power tools.